It’s wonderful when we are all together doing a fun family activity and everyone is happy and not whining (including Steve and I). I love spending time with everyone playing, eating dinner together or going to the park.
Every once in a while though, one on one time is really needed to be able to make a better connection with each girl separately. They are completely different from each other and spending time just with one child allows me to fully communicate with them and do something that interests them while giving them my full attention.
It’s fun having three girls a different stages of development. Phoebe is satisfied to go out on a rainy morning for a walk to a bakery.
Ella wanted to play at the park and take turns timing each other running through the play structure.
Chloe loved a night out of shopping, dining and a movie.
The benefits I have seen is that it has given me a chance to check in with each child on how their life is going and resolve any problems or concerns they might be having. It’s hard to do that in a group setting.
What I am working on right now especially with the older two is making myself a safe person for them to talk to about their difficulties. With Chloe heading off to Middle School next year I want her to know that she can be honest and open with me and I won’t freak out. There are no guarantees, but I’m hopeful she will feel like she can come to me.
Building relationships one on one and together as a family has proven to be both important and enjoyable.
Have you made a point to spend one on one time with your kids? What have your experiences, good or bad, been with it? I’d love to know.
Top photo by our dear friend Randy Wiederhold